Where do young people learn about sex from…?

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Hello and welcome to the course…

Hopefully this blog will work better and at least allow you all to access the materials… however, please bear with us as we are having to adapt resources that were designed for the WILMA system – so please be patient…!

It is my firm belief that part of the beauty of comprehensive RSE, is allowing young people to explore their attitude and a topic by giving them open ended questions that there is no right or wrong answer – that way they can always bring their own experiences and make each session relevant to themselves…

We are going to practice this method here by using this blog – so please get involved and join in.

For those of you that managed to log on to the previous course – you will remember that the first question on the forum was to introduce yourself and share your own experience of sex education when you were at school – I find not only do you hear some great stories to break the ice – but also it highlights the inadequacies and what we felt was missing form our own education – which is not a bad place to start from if we are trying to construct a better programme for young people today.

I am going to ask you to do this again… here – so please post your comments below…

So to start us off it would be good for everyone to introduce themselves and to share their experience of sex education from when they were at school. What can you remember – what was good – what was not so good… is it better now than then or have things not really moved on..?

I look forward to hearing from you all…

This is not a bad place to start with young people either – if I am ever asked to talk about Sex and the media or Pornography this is always where I start the session – I write on the board “where do young people learn about sex and relationships from” and work my way around the room asking everyone for a response…

The same things always come out – their friends, from home, from school, Biology lessons, music videos, TV shows, soaps, film – the internet, social media, porn, from experience, magazines etc…

We then work through the list exploring whether they are good or bad places to learn – what the benefits are and how reliable each source is…

One of the reasons I do this when I am asked to talk about pornography with a group – is that if I immediately say we are gong to talk about porn – young people generally react in one of two ways – they either clam up and won’t talk, scared that you will judge them for what they may or may not be watching – or secondly they tell you what they think you want to know – showing off for their peers or being overly critical and judgemental…

however, if you allow them to bring up the topic – they tend to be more honest – as they are dong it on their own terms…

I find this method works well with young people – I do a lot of consultation with young people and they are very savvy – they know that often you have an agenda and they simply tell you what they think you want to hear rather than telling you honestly what they think – so I try and create an environment where they can ask questions, explore their own agenda -but try to steer the conversation in the direction I want – but allow them to get me there… this way we both get the answers we are looking for!

Jonny

One Comment

  1. Danielle Davey

    January 11, 2016

    Woodlands

    Hi, I am the subject leader for PSHE and Citizenship in our secondary department and I am really looking forward to the opportunity to work with colleagues from other special schools.

    In terms of my own RSE education at school there was definitely no relationships element. I do remember a talk on menstruation for all of the girls in my year group. That would have been over a hundred of us in the sports hall so not really an open, safe learning environment, I don’t remember anyone asking a question! Any other sex education was done through a lesson on anatomy in Science.

    I am really grateful that through this course we will be able to develop our practice and gain new resources in order to give the appropriate value and importance to the RSE at our schools.

    I am really grateful that through this course we will be able to develop our practice and gain new resources in order to give the appropriate value and importance to the RSE at our schools.

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